Wednesday, December 26, 2007
The responses that are the hardest, are those when the respondent hopes for a miracle or for prayers that the DS will not be part of our lives. My visceral, mama bear response is indignation to the perceived insensitivity that chromosomal abnormalities are fixable. It's also the equivalent of the "I-can-say-what-I-want-about-my-family-member-but-woe-to outsiders-who-attack-them" response. Appreciating the prayers of those who are praying for us to have strength and grace to meet any demands, I try for understanding and recognize that the intent is for us, their loved ones, to be spared any heartache and distress. There's also a part of that tries for understanding because the responses are not anything that I haven't thought myself. E's DS is not something that we would have picked, and in my ignorance, I intellectually know that our lives will still be rich, but there's still fear of the unknown.
I've been thinking about this conflicting or dichotomy of my responses. It struck me the other day, that perhaps when people hope for the miracle that E is "fixed," that they're missing the point. Perhaps the true miracle is that T & I will be changed because of this experience. This, I think is what the real miracle will be.
Saturday, December 22, 2007
Him: "Yes, at the end of our Barbie playing, we had a little headstand contest."
Me: "Very nice."
Him: "Frankly, after so much time, I'm at a loss about what to do with Barbie."
As we begin to approach E’s B-Day, some random thoughts keep popping into my head:
1. Things I will miss about pregnancy:
· Knowing that E is as safe as she’ll ever be
· Not having to share her with anyone (I’m a selfish mama J)
· This is probably the last time I’ll ever have a life inside me again
2. Things I will not miss about pregnancy:
· Questions in the last weeks about any news – if you call and ask if there’s a baby yet, be prepared for scathing response
· Stupid comments about the tax break if E comes before the end of the year (Note: 1) the IRS prorates the tax rates. This is the government people, they’re not stupid. They know how to get their money; 2) Like the tax break is the sole reason to have kids. Riiiggght!)
· Assumption that I want this over with sooner rather than later - I think Mother Nature has a plan and I’m in no rush to have E here before her time. I take some comfort in knowing that there is an end game, I just don’t know when it will begin.
· The heartburn, I will not miss that
· Or the nausea, that too will not be missed
3. This pregnancy has been very different emotionally and physically than the first. Good difference from this one include:
· Being able to sleep in my bed! Not always comfortably, but at least able to lie flat. With Peeps, I was sleeping in a La-Z-Boy at month 5. On the flip side, I miss sleeping in the nursery. Somehow, it feels like that when I was sleeping in Peeps’ room, some magic mama powers infused the room with love and protection.
· Less weight gain which helps in moving about
· Once again blessed with a healthy pregnancy
· Better understanding of what I want from the birth experience
· A deeper appreciation for Big Daddy and all he contributes to the well-being of our family and how much he makes my life easy
Monday, December 17, 2007
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Anyway, last week was unexpected as M had a little fever and a terrible cold. This means she got to have cartoons and movies (something she normally doesn't get except when traveling or sick). In turn, I was able to motor through a large knitting project that is due for the holidays. As we're not planning on going anywhere on Christmas Day, I was hoping to have this completed by the family celebration on 12/8.
So, last week, I slogged through the tedious parts - basically the parts where the pattern is no longer charming and it becomes a bit repetitive getting to the next fun section or completing the project entirely. As I made it to the top where the neck shaping is (something you'll have to go to Ravelry to see, I'm jennifermph), I realized what I really like about knitting....the end. It becomes a rush of anticipation to see if the hard work has accomplished what you intended. There's also a a point at which the knitting becomes a bit obsessive (for me) and I can't put it down until it's completed.
Currently, it's washed and block and just waiting for a solid dry before it is wrapped and gifted. As I questioned that I would complete it time, I'm pretty happy with the entire project.
- My sister-in-law is very patient - this was promised at least 18 months ago
- Yarn has a mind of its own - the original yarn, which would also have been so beautiful for this project - did not want to be the Poncho. I cast on for this at least 15 times over the past year and a half and every time, something went wrong. When I changed to this lovely chunky wool, no problems and I think it will be more functional than the other.
- I converted the project to be knitted in the round!
- I learned to read a pattern that was a little vague with its descriptions.
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
She dressed in her Barbie Dancing Princess ensemble, black faux ballet slippers, velvet headband. She's holding Gabrielle who is dressed in a onsie that was slated to go to Little Peeps, but was filched by her big sister for her dolls.
Parenthood...well worth the price of admission.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
1. Getting the girls' rooms ready. Here are some shots of Peeps' room. I have to add some for the sparkly curtains. We still have a few items for Little Peeps' room to finish before I post pictures.
Thank goodness we got the queen size bed, otherwise, where would Shawn (the bear), dollies, and friends sleep? Also, it's a great place for family snuggling.
3. Conversation last night while snuggled together in bed:
"You know what Riley was doing today at school?"
"She was being sassy"
"Really? We don't know anyone here who is ever sassy, do we?"
giggling "Sometimes, I'm a little sassy. I'm just teasing."
4. New game called Switch - where M runs from one end of the living room to the other. A great game given we're not getting as much outdoor time. Especially fun when it involves snorting like a pig, walking like a duck, galloping like a horse.... we're only limited by our imaginations.
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Our Halloween fun began last night (Tuesday) with wax fangs from our neighbors.
Then, for the evening festivities of trick-or-treating, Peeps & Big Daddy - as Princess and Prince Charming - hit the neighborhood for candy. (He totally won the best parent costume, not to mention the adoration of his girls forever).
When we asked if she'd like to play the harp and maybe be the harp lady on Mackinac Island, she said, "No, I want to be a server (waiter)."
Friday, October 26, 2007
Things such as:
- Fashion sense
- Mobassa's carrying apparatus (crafting solutions out of what's at hand is a huge T trait and one of genius in this case.)
- Looooong wake-up time
- Active sleeping habits
- Mad speculating wildly skills
- Ability to make me look forward to what's next
All from her Daddy.
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
- Our imaginary second (genetically perfect) child that really only ever existed in our minds and hearts
- Our innocence that anything would ever be okay with our girls again
- Knowing that the heartache of parenting would be a constant
- Dreams and assumptions for the future
- A perspective that recognizes that for all the challenges of raising both girls, there are equal (and exceeding) measures of joy
- That our perspectives and assumptions about our lives are forever changes
- That our little family is more important than anything else and we'll work to keep it that way
- That while the death of dreams is hard, there will be new ones and they'll be as good, and probably better, than the ones that died
- That our hearts continue to expand with love despite fear and being overwhelmed
- We still feel ridiculously lucky and blessed to have the life we live. We wouldn't trade it for anything