Tuesday, September 30, 2008

I'm Sleeping With the Bassist

I don't know what it is, but when I talk about Big Daddy's band, it makes me happy to know that he's mine. On a rare night out in September, I went to see The Nu-Tones for their album release party. I just wanted to tell everyone that the bassist? He's mine*. And not only was he in the band, but he wrote what I think is their best song - Trendless Soul (#5 on the CD). And, despite being cooler than the other side of the pillow, he's a wonderful husband and great daddy. He's what you call - good people.


I've linked to their website on my sidebar. If you want to hear clips from their album, you can look them up on CD Baby or (deep breath) iTunes (search for Presenting the Nu-Tones). Yep, he (okay his band) is on iTunes. How's that for cool?


So check them out, and if you're in the area, they're playing this weekend**. Look all you like, but the Bassist? He's mine.

*mine in a '50s sort of way, not creepy stalker
**This was originally published, but somehow went back to draft mode. For their schedule, check out the Nu-Tones Website



Sunday, September 28, 2008

Newsletter:July and August 2008 - M Edition

My Beautiful M,
I've struggled with what to write about our summer and have started this post many times in my head, only to be exhausted by the time I have uninterrupted computer time. Also, July and August seemed like such a slog at times that it seems there's little good things to say. Things are smoothing out, though, and I'd like to be sure to accurately recap our lives together, so here goes the good and the ugly.

As I said, July and August were long months of arguing, negotiating, disciplining, having tantrums, etc. We took you out of daycare early in July because you were going to miss two weeks of it (one for Safety City where you learned the Fire Song, and one for vacation) and then it was a few short weeks until school. I, stupidly, had romanticized this time as being one of endless fun and adventure - a last hurrah before you started Kindergarten. It didn't quite turn out like I'd intended, but I think that it's been a good lesson for both of us. And lest you think this was a horrible period or that, we did have some really great days that full of fun, laughter, joy, and silliness.

Our Battles, if you will, come because, at 5, you think you're ready for everything; while I, at almost 40, know that you're still my baby, also, I've been 5 too, so you're attempts to pull one over on dad and I have failed miserably. For instance, one day you were tasked with cleaning your room and blithely assured me that it wasn't going to take any time. I verified this with you because I knew how much of your stuff is squirreled away in various places in your room. Given this was not a normal, just pick up the walk spaces area of your room, I was dubious. Sure enough, when I went in and started checking, I looked under your bed. Lo and behold! Most of the mess in your room magically transported itself under the bed. Busted! Little did I tell you that I am a past master of the under-the-bed-hiding trick.

You want so much to be a grown up. Once, during an argument I told you that you were smart, but that because Mommy is older and has lived longer, that I am smarter.* You came back with, "but I'm a Mom, too!" In the moment, this is phenomenally frustrating, but also so poignant. Your heart is so big and you love your dolls so much, that it's inconceivable to you that you're not their mom in the way I am yours. I have to take heart, too, that some (not all) of your behavior is your attempt to be me, which if you were an adult parent, would make me proud. However, as you're only 5, I will stay as the Mommy if you please.

This summer, we went on vacation to Mackinac Island and Traverse City to see family. You wanted to spend time with anyone other than your parents, blithely going off with the Kids Program on Mackinac and playing with your older cousins (D, D, and M). Since we've been home, there have been numerous conversations about how we wished D & M lived closer and plaintive queries as to when we'd see them again. We've also had endless discussions about Hannah Montana (who we don't watch) because D likes her. Your conversations usually goes like this:

M: I love Hannah Montana
Me: Really, why?
M: Because D does.

I've tried to explain that there is nothing inherently great about Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana, but because D loves her; so do you.

In August, we were able to take one of our girls-only trips to Mackinac Island. This time, Sissy went with us and we stayed with Nana. Last year, you and I went three times (twice together and once with dad), so this was our first one with Sissy. We had such a good time, having chocolate shakes at the Jockey Club, going to Turtle Park, helping drive the taxi on the way to Nana's, playing chase at the playground (where I hurt my ankle), going really fast on the way to the docks, missing dad. It was questionable whether we'd go since we'd been arguing, but I didn't want to miss out on our trips. I'm so glad we went. It reminded me how much fun we have together when I relax.

One thing that was different for both of our trips was that you didn't want to watch DVDs the entire way. Instead, especially when you, Sissy and I went, you wanted to talk; and so we did for about half of the way. You are endlessly curious and we discussed Coast Guard cutters, freighters, etc. which was very taxing at times because you ask very specific and detailed questions to which Mommy doesn't always know the answer. I try my best, though, and what I don't know, we try to ask Daddy, or someone else.

Starting kindergarten, I think, has really helped give us both some needed breathing space. I wrote a separate post about your first day, but it bears saying here, that despite all our challenges in the past few weeks, I missed you all day. I worked in the kitchen and kept looking out at the water tower and wondering what you were doing and how it was going. The hug you gave me when I saw you (I met you on the way home) was more because you had had so much fun than just to see me (although I know you were happy to see me too). You positively glowed with excitement. Although I knew you'd love Kindergarten, it was so good to see you again.

As I wrote earlier, we had some pretty hard days, but they seem to be smoothing out. You still have days where you don't listen and I have days where I ride you on everything, but I think we're learning how to better coexist. I'm trying to spend more one-on-one time with you and I think it helps both of us. In caring for E, I've missed you so much. I am greedy and want all your infancy and toddlerhood back, but I would also miss who you are now. It's one of the major downfalls of parenthood - that the more I fall in love with you at various times, my heart is breaking for what came before. Sometimes, I can't wait until you are a mother so that you know how completely I love you and so that we can talk about what it means to be a mother, woman, etc.this. Of course, I'll be falling in love with you and eagerly awaiting to see who you'd next become, which only proves that this process will be for my lifetime and that figuring out how to live with one another now is so worth it.

I love you.
Mom

Big Girl on Campus

8/22/08

Once Upon A Time,

There was a beautiful baby















Who grew up in the space of her mama's heartbeat.





















The
next thing her mama knew,




















She was the Big Girl on Campus* and I missed her all day.

When she got home from her first day, I met her on the way home (Daddy picked her up). She got out of the car and ran over to me and hugged me tightly, not only because she was glad to see me, but also because she had had such a great day that hugging tightly was a way to release all the pent-up excitement. It mended my poor mama's heart.

*Note navy socks with mint/lime pants. She is sooooo her daddy's daughter.

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Some Recent Conversations

I've been recording various M comments on papers throughout the house and on my Notes function on my mobile. Here they are:

*****
8/19/08
In car, E is working over one of her toys that has the crinkle paper in it.

M: Are you giving the Pooh book the 411? (instead of the whatfor?)

*****
8/22/08

Eating breakfast with dad on first day of school:

M: I may not know everything, but that's okay because it's just the first day.

*****
8/26/08

M: Do you have any imaginary friends, Mom?

Me: You mean like Emily*?

M: Emily isn't imaginary, she's my sister.

*Emily is M's imaginary friend originally from "Merochia (Mer-row-sha)," then China, and now she's from CDC (Atlanta, where I used to go frequently).

*****
9/1/08
M: (afternoon after getting her hair cut) I think I look like a Caitlin.

Me: Okay (my go to response when I have nothing)

*****
Exact date uncertain, but around 1st week of Sept.

(on speaker phone)
Oma (T's mom): Is it [school] exciting?

M: Well..., it was, but I've been there a few days now so it's not as much.

*****
9/18/08
Walking to school, I'm carrying E forward facing in a wrap:

Me: Look E, we can see so many things when we're looking forward.

M: Yeah, look at all the trucks, vans and USAs.

Me: (Looking around for flags or other partiotic items) You mean SUVs?

M: Yes.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Infinity and Beyond

M: I will love you for all time.

Me: I will love you for all time to infinity and beyond.

M: What's infinity?

Me: It means forever; there's no end to infinity.

M: Yeah, that's for me too.

The Fire Song (for Nana)

video

When asked what to do if she was ever really on fire, M replied, "Sing the song."

Saturday, September 13, 2008

Where's Sissy?

Long, Flowing, Hair Be Gone




on 8/29/08

Of course, after this, she went home, cut it in the front (so now its angled up to her chin) and tried blaming the dog for the big, clump of hair that she "found."

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

I Liked This


no, not making any more, other than working on making them into good people. :-)

Monday, September 8, 2008

One of the Best Things I've Read

Once again from The QC Report:
But if you’re not careful to carve out time there’s never a point where you look at all the things you know and see and have experienced and actually crop the image. There's no room to think this is important and this makes me who I am and this makes me happy in a way I can’t exactly explain.
If you have a few moments, check out the entire entry.

Monday, September 1, 2008

Family Pictures

We've had pictures taken of E at 6 (okay really 7) months are are in my Flickr account. You can see them in the previews to the right, or, for just the set, visit -
http://www.flickr.com/photos/46634524@N00/sets/72157607060856949/

I'm woefully behind in posting and have monthly updates to write for both the girls. A little preview....learn about the accidents that M's imaginary friends have been having.